| Yesterday, there was someone (one of my enemies...I just love that these people inspire so many posts and graphics about my fave topics!) who said to me:
"Your so-called break-up with Harry is a sham break-up. It*s not real. You*re both obviously very sweet with each other....and for whatever reason, you want to keep your romance a secret!"
ACTUALLY, I was annoyed with that tirade! Here I am struggling to stabilise my feelings, putting things in perspective, while at the same time trying to maintain good vibes with my ex Harry (because we believe in that)...and here come people like this who accuse me of things I*m not (lying and participating in a sham break-up) (well, it*s real folks...and it hurts because the love that came before this real break-up was also real!)...Do you think accusations HELP a broken heart? Yeah I forgot for a moment that my enemies want nothing better than to harm me. Figures, right?
How I wish that were true: no broken heart, no pain! By now, people already know that I*m the kind of person that can decide to remain someone*s ex even though I*m still in love with the person. Why is this? Well, people have all sorts of valid reasons for breaking up (one of the most valid and credible is "gross incompatibility", I mean, if you both don*t want the same things in life, each of you is better off being with someone who is happy with exactly that thing that makes you happy too.) And when you decide you*re doomed to incompatibility with someone, you cut your losses before the whole thing turns into one big tragedy....that then leaves you to deal with the fact that your heart doesn*t necessarily agree with what your mind has decided as the best solution. (Because your heart says it is still madly in love with the said ex...How hard this internal fight is at times...head versus heart!
Which one wins - the head or the heart?? FOR ME, the answer is easy (different circumstances indicte which one should win!): When I fall in love, I listen to my heart and take on the challenge of loving someone. When troubles surface, I don*t care what my heart says at that point, I*ll just solve the problem as intelligently as I can...and I*m not claiming special intelligence or anything like that...I just aim for the best solution...it really has to be head-over-heart.
And that way, I look like a stick in the mud, clinging stubbornly to whatever I*ve decided on. For DECADES. So all you romantics can either turn to stone or curl up and die, and I*ll still stick to my guns.
Is there NO CHANCE EVER?? There*s one: It*s called a Miracle. By that, I mean - the transformation of two souls so that they could be compatible at last. That takes DECADES too. So yeah...there*s no way out this time, the romantics lose this round.
Is life a game to be played, with others winning and others losing?? I see LIVING this way: "Life is a game I must win; love is optional, and certainly not a game (we can*t play with peoples* hearts...so we have to be careful when we choose someone to love)." But that*s just me. I*m sure most everyone has his or her own version of what life and love are to them. |
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