| Love enters our lives without being invited...we just "fall" into it...and later we decide we want to STAY in love for that special someone [A Catholic priest and psychologist Father John Powell, S.J. once wrote a book entitled "The Secret of Staying In Love"...I*ll spare you the details...His book generally says COMMUNICATION is the secret...I DON*T agree!!! To me the secret is BEING A BETTER PERSON FOR YOUR LOVED ONE...That means, if one were a bad person (for real), a new relationship is the right place to start being virtuous...and if one is ALREADY virtuous, then the next thing to strive for, for the sake of the beloved, is being even more virtuous than before...That*s the secret I believe in when it comes to staying in love. Sorry. I know I disappointed a lot of people who thought I would root for the classic secret, which is "communication"...no-can-do, nuh-uh, nope!].
Love is very mysterious...Harry*s the first guy to ever make me feel good romantically. All the rest, particularly the guys I "chose" (ALL of them except Harry) at one point or another, didn*t know what they were doing! {Note: I*m NOT speaking about my present suitors, one OR several of whom might be loving me even more deeply than anyone ever...the only problem is, I don*t know specifically yet, who these guys are...but certainly, we must count those who have been courting me steadfastly since 2003!!! (Many of whom I now know personally because they have...well...already proposed marriage to me.) (Many did kneel down {a Protestant thing and I*m Catholic} and wanted me to keep the ring...) (Well, how can I answer everyone properly {but I did give replies, I just didn*t think I*ve explained myself enough to each...that WE ALL must wait for some kind of sign from Destiny...and if Destiny keeps silent?...then I don*t marry anyone! Simple.}...When the proposals came like an avalanche (We*re thinking the same thing {!}:...What did these guys eat for lunch that caused them to do these things? {main question}....Or was it something I said...or perhaps DIDN*T do, to cause them to do the unthinkable, the far-fetched?...and then still continues to this day {how could anyone reply properly to all, for that matter?}...If YOU were in this situation...sort of like a Hollywood actress having lots of fans I suppose...how will you be able to weigh things properly?...or talk to all your fans in any significant manner?)
This is me: I let things happen, I let Destiny take its course...that way, I*m free to live my life with so much intensity for the things I really want to do...I feel I don*t need a partner but I do WANT one!!...There*s no need to fret though...the right partner will appear when the proper time comes...that makes me much more relaxed than some women who MUST follow a timetable, like they must marry at this age or they*ll never look normal to their friends...and then many of them divorce anyway...or stay in a marriage they no longer want because a sexier man has appeared on the scene...which they realised...they MUST have, they MUST conquer) (okay, it*s true...I witnessed a woman declaring THAT...hahaha!) (or even have a guy on the side, two-timing their husband, all because these women rushed their choices) (due to that enigmatic thing called a "woman*s timetable for a wedding in order to look normal to one*s friends"). Well the ones in open-marriages are luckier...BOTH husband and wife can openly be with others without blaming each other nor fighting!...a dream to many!...
Back to "the guys"...I have no idea about how to console the sad ones...or those feeling hopeless...I can comfort them with my love though (our love flies away...straight to the heart of a loved friend or family member...however, love must be strong in order to do that.) (Let me share this: Witnessing Harry crying for me when he was younger...that broke my heart...perhaps he was so cute? an adorable baby in my eyes at that time?...well, he*s younger than my son...)...
Now let*s talk of today: Today I can always thank the ones that went out of their way to be protective of me when they sensed something was off, especially with the mainstream journalists of EVERY platform.
Anyway, some suitors have married, then divorced, and now are back to sending me their love and support from time to time (can anyone believe that? Love is indeed mysterious.). With love and support like that, I certainly consider my suitors my close friends. I found that not counting the good guys...that includes Harry...who are the only ones who protect and defend me from nasty people...there are those that are basically against me, especially most women of this Earth...I wonder why though...most of them ARE Feminists...well, maybe that could be why...and there are nasty guys too, and my protective friends are all on the look-out for THOSE! ACTION, get it?? I LOVE IT!
I was saying about LOVE...Love wants to insure that the beloved feels good/is happy in our care. And love necessarily means one has the required maturity to participate in and contribute to a blissful union. I won*t talk about the different forms of marriage here, just the western concept of romantic love...focused and deep...I have a preference for THAT. (My background states that I was raised in an environment that*s steeped in Catholic influence from Europe, meaning that my ideas of love and love relationships stem from THAT). We stumble and fall on our way to that heaven (Then again, we all should forgive one another if there were hurt feelings).
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