| [Now that I have written this and he has read it, I can see that he is now behaving nicely toward the ladies!...But do not let that fool you! At best, never be close! At least, be careful! Keep it casual! You do not want to end up like his disappearing "Female Best Friend" - who just left without saying good-bye - she was probably scared of him!]
I wrote this entry to clarify matters:
Please do not confuse this Stalker/Banned Person with any other individual, especially not my "former secret crush"...
People are thinking that since the Stalker has somehow hurt me that he must have been someone that meant something to me at one point...NO!!!
So here is the profile of the person in question/6 points on The Stalker/[Gender:Male]:
1. He is the kind of person that you would be cautious about approaching or befriending, because he seems to have a really big chip on his shoulder regarding his apparent resentment of women...in other words, instinctively, you FEEL that he is a woman-hater but you befriend him just the same in order to give him a chance at many friendships on DN
2. He seems sad and forlorn, all the more do you try to forget the warning bells about being friends with this person and just console him (so how many women fell into his pity trap? it is hard to count them!!)
3. Once you befriend this abject and forlorn individual, BEFORE TRYING TO ABUSE YOU he will make you pity him all the more because of his living conditions and his health (you will...*sob*...I know I did)
4. You will start to notice that he becomes a bit irreverent sometimes, saying normal things in a vulgar way, ways in which etiquette would not permit.
For example, I made the mistake of sharing information about myself that I would not have done because of sensitive facts, but I did anyway in order to make this *pitiful* individual feel at home with my friendship.
I waited with bated breath for a real sharing of views on life:
His response? It was something like...
"So anyway, about me..." - there was not even a single comment with what I shared!
Not even one question like..."How do you feel about the situation?"...I was listening to him, discussing the things he discussed, but he never did the same thing for me! At first I tried not to notice, really, thinking he was just tired...
then after a few ONE-SIDED exchanges liken this one I finally snapped...it was like talking to no one...and he kept on talking about himself!
5. What made me leave finally (and ban him) was when he started screaming at me and asking me why I said such things when I did not say anything of the sort! He twisted my words and made it seem like I was a bad person...so I said I did not say anything like that and he just kept quiet upon receiving an angry correction from me (two short sentences..."I did not say....I said....!!!") and he did not apologize.
That was when I realized I was dealing with a self-centered lunatic, a sociopath even, who was only talking to himself and would not even acknowledge the existence of others and their concerns...
He sent me PMs just for me to be his sounding board and to get attention for his aches and pains...
Actually, when I tried telling him more about myself, aside from acting like I never shared anything significant or noteworthy, so he had no comment, he also proceeded to talk either about something in his sorry state or some horrible WOMAN.
6. WOMEN: He always has this story to tell about some HORRIBLE and not just insensitive WOMAN! At first, I got angry at the women for treating him in a horrible manner...REALLY angry at them! It was only later, after I left the friendship, that I realized he really wanted to say awful things about WOMEN ONLY, and was careful to not talk badly about men.
I came to DREAD receiving PMs from this guy.
I realized then that I was dealing with a woman-hater all along. It is impossible to be friends with someone who abuses both your trust and kindness, and just plain abuses you, period.
THOSE ARE SIX POINTS THAT MAKE UP MY BRIEF PROFILE ON "THE STALKER"...I was careful to explain nos. 4 and 5 in some detail to make it clear that it was not anything romantic, like a lover\'s quarrel of some sort...more on romantic stuff at the lower end of this journal entry...
I could call this person a woman-hater but The Woman-Hater has far too many syllables so I will just stick with The Stalker.
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To those thinking I was in love with some guy who I subsequently banned, you have got the wrong story. This person, the Stalker-guy was just plain obnoxious and I honestly do not have the time for such a stupidity in my life.
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There was some interest also regarding my "former secret crush" and the question of why I deleted that entry on him, which some people got fond of because they wanted to guess who this person is. Was.
Well...uhm...I am not sure I would bring back that journal entry...but maybe I can compromise about describing him a bit in a new entry...JUST SO YOU WOULD NEVER CONFUSE HIM WITH The Stalker. So wait for it...
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