|(The wallpaper below is one of Betsey\'s Uploads. Many of you will be reading this on your profile pages: I am posting it here for Betsey\'s friends who I may not have on my fan list so they can read this also.) |
January 17, 2017
To my friends & everyone else on Desktop Nexus,
I am the bearer of some sad news.
Betsey Butler, a member of Desktop Nexus since September of 2008, passed away on November 20th, 2016. I did not find this out until last Sunday, January 22nd.
Even if you did not know Betsey, please read on. I have something to say that you may never have thought of before; something that could help you and many others.
Most, if not all of us, have made some good friends on Desktop Nexus. Some of those friends may mean so much to you that you\'ve even exchanged email addresses with them and have become pen pals, (or perhaps I should say email pals.)
Betsey and I were email pals. We wrote back & forth on a regular basis. Often it was just short notes. We had days where we wrote each other as much as 10 times. Sometimes 3 or 4 days would go by before we wrote again, but we always kept in touch.
On October 24, 2016, I wrote Betsey that I was about to go to Canada for the first time in 25 years, and that I\'d let her know all about it when I got back. She wrote back;
"Have a great day!"
That was the last time that I ever heard from her.
I kept writing her, and got more and more concerned when I didn\'t get any replies. Betsey had dealt with some health problems, i.e. she had what she called a "small stroke" and had to go live in an assisted living center for awhile, but then she got her own apartment again. I began to wonder if she\'d had another stroke and was back in assisted living with no computer access or something. It never occurred to me that she might have passed away.
I finally found out that she had from another one of her friends who was just as shocked as I was about it. My friend read it on her Facebook timeline. No details were given.
Whoever may still be reading this;
Please, if at all possible give a trusted friend or family member access to your Desktop Nexus account; your Face book account; your email account. You matter. People care for you. People will notice when you are missing.
Please have someone lined up to notify people, just in case you leave this earth. None of us knows the day or the hour when that might happen... If you pass on, people will wonder and eventually worry about what happened to you.
One Desktop Nexus member who did think to do that was Sparky/Kate Hatheway. Her sisters were able to access her Desktop Nexus account and let everybody know. That was such a wonderful to do...
I wrote to Betsey for 14 weeks without hearing from her. It hurts to realize now that I was writing to someone who would never read what I had to say.
I have been in mourning since last Sunday when I found out. That is why I\'ve been wearing this wallpaper of Betsey\'s on my profile for the past week. (By the time you read this, I\'ll be wearing one of the one\'s I made for Betsey.I wish I could wear more than one wallpaper at a time!)
I put aside some abstract wallpapers I was going to upload last Sunday. Instead I have spent this week creating two wallpapers in memory of Betsey Butler.
This one is my mourning wallpaper...
I was only going to make the one wallpaper, but I decided that another one was needed. To the best of my knowledge, Betsey was a Christian and had Jesus in her heart. She is now in a better place...so I created this happier wallpaper in her memory also.
Please choose either of my two wallpapers and put your thoughts and memories of Betsey in the comments. I would love to read them and possibly learn some things about her that I didn\'t know before.
One more thing. Betsey fanned 387 members here. I\'ve fanned only 159. If she has fanned anybody that I have not, and they are still active friends of yours, please let them know about Betsey too.
Thank you for reading this...and God Bless...all of you! This sad experience has made me realize just how special you are...
With much love,
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